You don’t know how kind you really are
If only wee could see the impact we have. If only we could see how we touch those around us. If only we knew what each little act we do (especially with love and with selflessness) brings to the world. I met a young man many years ago who was brilliant (he really shined) but he was troubled and couldn’t see how much he touched those around him. He gave me a CD of his beautiful, self-composed music – divine. He may never know how much that gift was able to accomplish. Today, my heart is open and I listen to the piano soothing and stirring my heart with it’s melodies of love. I can feel his love, his joy and his pain encouraging my own heart to speak. So now I share these words, we are so kind, so incredibly kind, our nature is kindness.
If only Christopher McCandless (Into the Wild) or Amy Winehouse knew their kindness and ability to touch others. Maybe they would still be here now with us or, maybe, their deaths were their greatest kindness, revealing the tragedy of not knowing how loved they were or that they really touched those around them in profound ways. We can learn from the tragedy of their stories. May no one die without knowing how very kind they have been.
If only you could see how you changed the world when you opened your heart and did something courageous because your heart told you to or because you had nothing left you let someone help you. If only you could see the chain reaction of interactions and events, the ripple that followed. If only we could see how good we really are.
Sometimes others can see this goodness and we can’t. If only others would point out what is good and kind. We are all teachers. We are all touched by the love of others and feel it. If only we could reciprocate or express our gratitude, reinforcing the kindness shown to us and pointing out to others how wonderfully kind they really are. Imagine what our world would be like if we could do this. We would be met with love and joy wherever we went.
Maybe we can be shown how we touch the world? Maybe we only need ask? A yearning request from the heart to be shown how we touch the world and who we really are. Maybe we can try.
We can spend our whole lives in the void of loneliness and isolation, never seeing that we have these gifts within us – each of us. Sometimes, as my teacher, Sogyal Rinpoche, would say ‘it’s like we’re looking for our glasses but they are already on our heads.’ We already have so many qualities but through our pain and self-rejection we just can’t see them. They were always there and everyone else can see them but us. Imagine if we could see them and own them, be them. Imagine that. We could cultivate them because we would be able to see how much happiness they bring to others and, in turn, to ourselves. We could see that real happiness comes with sharing these qualities with the world and developing them further so that they become limitless. We would see that our insatiable appetite for satisfaction and consumption will never fill that hole left from the lack of our own self-love and self-recognition. We would see that celebrating the joy, beauty and meaning that we, as individuals, bring to the world is not arrogant but merely acknowledgement of the truth. We all have this heart of goodness. It may be hiding right now but it is there and we each have tiny moments of recognition throughout our lives. If only we could cherish them for what they are – precious gifts with the potential to reveal to us who we really are. May we be able to receive this love and acknowledgement when it comes our way rather than rejecting or doubting it.
As these qualities are expressed in relation to others. It is through their kindness that we can begin to see them. We can’t love without an object of love and we can’t inspire without an object to be inspired. Therefore we can also acknowledge the tremendous kindness of others, giving precious opportuniti to shine.
I would like to thank a very special person that has entered my life and, day by day, holds up the mirror to me with such kindness, revealing to me the beauty in my own reflection. How wonderful! What kindness! What I can see I can identify with and own and, therefore, become. Ballet dancers learn in front of the mirror so that when they dance they know how beautifully they move and do so with confidence and without hesitation. I am learning to dance. May we all teach each other, mirroring back our own unique beauty to each and every one around us. I encourage you, today, to share with someone something they do well, something that touches you (even if only a little), something they may not see and then rejoice in how wonderful you are for showing such kindness.
May we all awaken fully to our good hearts.